This will be a weird post to some of you.
My mom & her sister were both teenage mothers. My Aunt had a boy & my mom had me & they were both pretty poor so I wore my cousins clothes & hated it...my girly heart ached for something pink & flowery.
Then as I grew up I rebelled & wore black almost exclusively.
By the time I got married & was happy, I started to wear dresses more often. I love Tasha Tudor & her lifestyle...then I met Christian women who wore dresses exclusively & I thought that was great...I've been wearing dresses very happily for a number of years now.
But. There's been a lot of time when I'd see something I thought was absolutely cute & not a dress & all my ideas would be sent spinning...
Some of the struggle was based on religion...what is Biblically correct?
This year, I finally became Catholic. I was Baptised & Confirmed at the Easter Vigil. For months before that, I met all these really great people who had a wonderful love & knowledge of Scripture but completely did NOT fit the mold that I had made of what a person who would have this love & knowledge should look like! It really got me thinking.
I started to think about how wearing dresses does make people assume I must be Christian. Little old Ladies ask for my help & smile at us a lot....but then, I had this feeling that it kept a lot of people from talking to us too...that maybe, somehow, we thought we were "better"....
I also thought of how God sees inside us...on the outside, I might have this great exterior, but what about inside me? I KNOW there are areas that I need to work on & maybe, instead of dealing with them, I was busy primping my external view??
I have a lot of respect for women who are exclusively wearing dresses. That has not changed. And maybe, because I'm always changing & because I do love dresses, maybe, I will be that person again one day...but I am not now.
It's been coming on slowly...maybe since I first starting wearing dresses Only? My husband honestly has no preference to what I wear...afterall, when we met, my hair was purple & I was all in black! :)
So I don't want this to be a religious debate or anything like that...mostly, I guess I just want people to know a teensy bit of where my mind is right now & for everyone to know that, in essentials, I am the same...but I think, a LOT happier!
Anyway.
Things have been busy here...I've been watching the 3 neighbor girls & wondering why I am so often asked to watch THREE GIRLS? Well, 3 extra girls can be quite a handful...boys may be more physical, but nothing like whiny, teary-eyed girls to keep you on your toes! Yesterday was the last day so I am SO ready to get back to school work & our own little household...
We are hoping to buy a car soon & we still own this darn house so any prayers would be kindly appreciated! It's scary to think of how much of our check will be missing but we really do need the car...so between applying for loans, then getting the car wheel-chair-ised thrown into all the other daily life things is a bit stressful...but God is good! We are all together & happy & very blessed!
God bless!
lottie
colorful
July 12 2005, 14:58:32 UTC 6 years ago
July 13 2005, 13:50:21 UTC 6 years ago
Hello!
Sorry to hear about the mortgage thing...I'll tell you it really sucks! Will your house be up for sale?I still love to see women in dresses & I love floral prints...but right now, for me, I just can't do it anymore...I really feel I was giving the people I knew the idea that I felt superior somehow & I think it kept them at a distance from me...now that I am wearing more "normal" clothing, I feel people are a lot more friendly to me! It's funny & interesting...it definitely took a lot of prayer to come to the decision...but I am happy to be through with it & now can work on the real me!
love
lottie
July 13 2005, 10:30:52 UTC 6 years ago
The rare times when I cannot tell the gender of a person in trousers, it is because they are either a child or deliberately trying to appear as the other gender.
July 13 2005, 13:54:49 UTC 6 years ago
Hello!
It does feel odd, you are right...& I really struggled with wondering if it was vanity or what??My girls still like such girly things that I think there's no mistaking them for girls! I was worried about changing everything for them when they've been wearing dresses for so long & I've really been encouraging them to always do so...but I think they are happier now...their friends have become closer friends...I don't know, it's just a huge sigh of relief to not feel that I "have" to do something...
love
lottie
July 17 2005, 23:44:44 UTC 6 years ago
July 18 2005, 07:03:13 UTC 6 years ago
Hello!
I agree. I don't think I ever thought it was sinful to wear pants but the modesty issue had me thinking (long) skirts were best & I still love dresses & skirts...I'm just sorta sick of them right now! :)I think meeting some people who dress in ways that I wouldn't have considered modest & yet they have this faith that just amazes me made me realise I'm worrying too much about externals...
love
lottie